Father's Day Should Be Everyday Not Just Once a Year.
Posted: Wednesday, June 06, 2007
by Kathy Somers
Father's...what can I say? Some have great father's and some unfortunely don't. In what order would you put these words to describe how you feel about your father? Love, Accept, Respect and Forgive. This is a hard question isn't it? I even have to really think about this also. I will say love first, forgive second, respect third and then accept.
We have to accept our fathers for who they are whether he treats you and your family badly or not. He probably won't change a whole lot between now and the day he dies. Hopefully he will change a bit and realize how important his family is to him and not take them for granted.
We also have to accept it if our fathers are great business men and seem to pay more attention to his work than his wife and kids. Or if your father has a job that is not up to your standard and it embarrasses you what he does for a living. Well just be thankful that he is working to provide a roof over your head, meals on your table and clothes on your back.
I could go on and on about all the different types of fathers out there, but there are to many to list. We just have to accept him for who he is right now or we can be stressed out over it for the rest of our lives and waste our life away hating him, fathers are human like you and I and they do make mistakes just like everyone else on this planet.
Those of you who have a dad that is loving and understanding and all the things good in the world that any son or daughter could ever ask for and have no problem accepting him, you are very lucky to have or had him in your life.
It is hard to respect a dad that has no reason to be respected because he is so terrible. But you know, you wouldn't be here if it weren't for him being with your mom at one time.
One of my friends never ever met her dad or even knows who he is, but she told me that for some reason she has a love for him deep down inside and she is glad that he was with her mother, or she wouldn't be here. Some of you wish you weren't here I know, but there is a reason you are here.
If you are a man, well chances are you will be a father one day. Just try not to do what your father done to hurt you. Break the cycle because your biological father probably was treated the exact same way as he treats you. So at least respect your father for one thing, he took part in creating you, whether it was in a good way and he loved your mom, or even if it was in a bad situation.
It is so hard to forgive isn't it? We seem to forgive others more quickly than our own family members. Years ago fathers were the ones who did the punishing in the family. Whether he used a switch off a bush, a belt, or a kick in the butt. He was just doing what he thought best at that time or what he was taught as a young man from his father.
But now in 2007 it is not allowed to punish children in that manner anymore, maybe that is what’s wrong with the kids these days, guns in school, and whatever you hear on the news is never a positive. Today all a kid gets is a time-out, or not even that because their parents are to busy for them.
For some of us, the way our dad’s did punish us way back when, has had an impact on who we are today and we can't seem to forgive or forget. You will never forget. But you can forgive. Just say it and mean it, say it to yourself, or say it out loud to God. I forgive my father for being so hard on me, I forgive my father for beating me with whatever he got his hands on, I forgive my father for never being there for me when I needed him most, I forgive him!
You know what; I bet you feel some burden lifted off your shoulders right now. You should tell him if you’re able to that you forgave him. If your father is not with us on this earth, still tell him that you forgive him, how? Just say it out loud, look up to the sky and just say it. I don’t know if people can hear us up there or not, but I am sure they can.
What I find the easiest to do is to love. I love my father no matter what his mistakes were in the past. He is who he is. I can't change that and personally I never would. I tell him I love him on different days. I don't wait until Father's Day.
I give him a big fat hug sometimes too; I don't wait until Father's Day for that either.
I even give him a kiss on the cheek and you know what I am going to say, I don't wait until Father's Day.
He helped to raise me and my sister; he helped put a roof over our heads and food in our mouths and clothes on our back. We were very lucky, more than a lot of people. He also has said things that hurt me and did things to make us mad or sad. But I Love him, I forgave him, I respect him and I accept him.
Don't wait to love, forgive, respect and accept him on Father's Day, do it everyday!
We are supposed to out live our parents, that is nature’s way. So in saying that, one day your father will die. Some of you will say to yourselves " I am so glad I told him I loved him while he was alive " and some will say " If I had only told him I loved him, if I only told him I forgave him..." be the person that says " I am so glad..."
Father's Day should be everyday, not just once a year.
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Top-level comments on this article: (7 total)Well written. Thanks for your insight.Well thank you very much! I just wrote what is in my heart and how I see things, I hope it helps someone, that is what I really want. Thanks again, you made my day!Great article...Don't stop writing...! I think we need to back to the old way, with a stronger enphasis on "Tough Love..." NOT Violence.. I gues what most don't realize... is that; they will suffer more, not for not understanding their Father on Earth... But, for not obeying their Father in Heaven... God's wishes.P.S.I Love my life... My Father gave me that...! Soooooo, I Love my Father No matter what he did or did not do for me... He is "The Man..." I would like to think that; I have turned out, just like him!Glad I could help you have some insight :), it sure is hard to feel some of these thing believe me I know. But it is possible, especially the Forgive one. Glad you wrote to me a little message, thank you, have a good day.
Very well done Kathy. My dad and I were never really close. Although I love him, and upon occassion tell him. It's very difficult for him to return those simple words "I love you" ... for whatever reason. I'd like to offer one suggestion for this article ... the paragraphs that have bold "accept" and "forgive" .... try breaking the paragraph up and add some "white space". It gives the eyes a bit of a break, and, to me, makes it easier to read :)Thank you very much for your suggestion, and I will try to make it easier to read. I learn all I can about writing as it is new to me. Thank you also for giving me the compliament on a job well done. You don't know how happy that makes me.Let me know how I did spacing my paragraphs. Please
Thanks! I like your spacing here just fine :) You write from the heart and your style is conversational, which is good :)Thank you Phillip again, I am glad you like my spacing...now I can see what you meant, easier on the eyes and easier to read. Love your name...my little 2 1/2 year old is named Philip also........with one L do you have any articles in here as well? Thank you again
Kathy, your articles are getting better and better. This was really beautiful and brought tears to my eyes. You always add a beautiful picture too that always really shows the emotion of your article. Very nice!Hi Flo, thank you very much for telling me those things, it almost brought tears to my eyes writing it. Thanks again for the positive feedback on my little article.
Great article. My father passed away and I wish I had him back for just one day to give him another hug and tell him I love him. Keep up the good work Kathy.Hi, I am glad that I still have my dad so I can still give him a hug. I hope I can hug him and my mom for many years to come. Thank you for saying Good Work.......makes me very happy that people enjoy this one.
Hi Kathy, Yes, I have other articles here in SearchWarp ... 7 so far :) I invite you to read and comment on any or all of them :) Perhaps a quick read and printout of my latest (for your hubby to find): Seven Easy Steps to Create the Ultimate Bubble Bath would be in order :) Do a search here at searchwarp ... "search article" and put Bubble Bath in the blank box :)I searched and read some of your article, very good work I must say. I love your articles and I may check into your website. No , I will check into your website.
Great story, Kathy. You can tell you are a senti-mental gal, who loves her dad. Enjoyed reading your work. Dave Po of Central PA - pos-peek dot comDavid....thank you and I do love my dad alot. It's been a hard relationship with him and I.....but I would never trade him in...
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